Tips on Finding a Therapist

Finding a new therapist can be a daunting task.  That is why I put together some of my thoughts on how to go about your search for a therapist.  If you have any questions, please email me at rosemary @

  • Ask others you know and trust who their therapists are, what they like about them, and if they have any recommendations for someone who may be a good fit for you.
    • Keep in mind that not every pair is a good match.  Your experience with a therapist may be totally different than that of the person who recommended them to you.
  • Search online, type in keywords that are important to you and your story.
    • Some therapists will not work with certain disorders or experiences.
    • Take note of the way that they describe their therapeutic orientation.  What resonates with you and what falls flat?  Going with a therapist who you are drawn to is important.
  • Ask questions of your therapist before you get into the first session.
    • Give them a call or email them.  This is mutually beneficial because it allows for you and your therapist to get a better feel for whether it could be a constructive pairing.
    • Consider asking questions about:
      • education/therapeutic orientation
      • why they went into therapy
      • how their pricing system works
      • what their cancellation policy is
      • how they take payment
      • who they usually work with
      • what a typical introductory session looks like
      • if their schedule works with yours
    • Note how you feel as you are reading their response, or talking with them on the phone; do you feel comfortable? rushed? confused?  These are all good indicators of what might be a part of your dynamic in the sessions to follow.
  • Ask yourself: what is it that you find valuable in the person or people that you feel understood by?  What are some of their qualities? Do you see those same qualities in the therapist with whom you are meeting?

Listen to yourself and trust your experience.

Notice if you are sensing that there is something “off,” confusing about your sessions, or that the messages that you are receiving in your sessions don’t sit well with you.  Consider discussing your observations/feelings with your therapist.  Your discomfort could be a sign that it is not a healthy match and that you should seek another therapist who would ultimately be more beneficial to you.